Why Am I Listening?
I happened to be online when the Tiger Woods 'apology' speech was given and I tuned in. I kept asking myself, "Why am I listening to this? Like what business is it of mine?" There is no logical reason why I should pass judgment on other people's private relationships. For me to do so would be the ultimate soap opera mentality.
When God's created evolutionary process evolved past reflexive reproductive activity based solely on hormonal secretions, and left humans with sex drives as diverse and complicated ongoing sagas, sex became more comedic and the ethics extremely personal. If Tiger Woods owes the public an explanation regarding his sex life or his married life, then so does everyone else. When Tiger Woods, reading from his scripted professionally crafted apology, says it is all about him he is dead wrong. It's about all of us, about relationships. about love, about children, about matters driven as much by emotions as reason. I am tired of reading about the sexual trysts of famous people whether it be Thomas Jefferson, FDR, Martin Luther King, Eisenhower, Kennedy, Clinton, Edwards, athletes, priests, etc.
Sexual drives vary immensely, sexual orientations vary, the type of sexual acts vary, and the reasons for marrying are all over the place. Would Mrs. Woods have married Tiger if he had been a caddy instead of a golf star? Does it matter?
If two people can find a way to co-exist, raise their children properly, and practice responsible reproduction, then for what reason does any one else have to get involved and pass judgments? How much of anyone else's more controlled sexual encounters is as much lack of opportunity as anything else? Why in hell would we expect someone who is satisfied with sex once a month be given a halo for restrained sexual activity? Why in hell would we expect to control or judge which adults have sex with each other and the kind of sex acts involved? If there is a right way to enjoy sex just who is it that decides this? Why would anyone with an ounce of respect for diversity of human nature want to dictate the proper grounds for marriage, who should be able to marry who, what kind of commitments or tolerance they make with each other regarding sexual flings, etc. A person like Jacqueline Kennedy didn't care as long as Jack kept his flings out of sight, a person like Mrs. Edwards cares a lot. Every couple needs to set the ground rules for their relationship, and when the commitment is strained by breaches, it is their problem, and their problem alone. Relationships are difficult, are often hard to sustain, and only the two involved in the relationship can determine if and how it can be sustained. Why do the rest of us feel a need to be judge and jury with detailed depictions of all transgressions? After watching that pathetic public scripted apology from Tiger Woods I felt like I needed to apologize for listening to it. One way or another I guess most of us are some form of Peeping Toms. Shame on us. It occurs to me that I now know more about the sex life of Tiger Woods than I do about the sex lives of people I know on a more personal basis. I have some catching up to do---maybe I'll invite them over and others who know them can demand an accounting.
