Second Chances
The heart rendering story of Chris Henry, the Cincinnati wide-receiver suspended from football for numerous arrests, mostly for violent acts, dismissed from the team, and then when no one else wanted him, was given a second chance by Cincinnati, seemed to have settled down and was doing things right----and then, falling out of the back of a pick-up truck during a domestic dispute with his bride to be, he died at age 26. Those who knew him best, his teammates, the coaches, the owners, all seem genuinely devastated by his death, all claiming he was nothing like the media portrayed him. That of course, is hard to fit with a college coach who once told Henry that he was a total disgrace to his team and school.
Of course those on the other end of his violent, angry, emotional outbursts for most of his life may see it differently. Perspective is everything. Depending on your job in life you may or may not meet and have any meaningful contact with the Chris Henrys of life. I certainly did and you never get over how much empathy they can extract from you in calm conversational situations. In some sense they are con artists. Part of why they do such anti-social acts is that they can invariably use their personal charm to weasel out of any lasting consequences. One always feels, if you know them in any counseling situation, that he/she is mostly misunderstood, a basically good person who foolishly does some bad things. Many parents understand what I mean here.
Henry, it seems had finally turned things around and was settling into a more 'mature' mode and the 'good' Henry was about to have a good and fulfilling life. Maybe so, maybe not----hard to really say. But let's be positive here and assume he was a once 'bad' character who had turned his life around. BUT, how many 'good' people who do bad things ever have a financial fortune as a carrot? I wonder what percentage of ghetto gang members who are basically 'good' persons might shape up if the reward for such personal discipline and altered priorities, was a huge financial fortune? Of course one feels bad that Henry had turned the corner behavior wise and seemed on track to live a productive life as a good citizen when he met his death. It is a legitimate feel good story.
STILL, there are millions more young people out there, equally 'good' people 'at heart', doing bad things, who will never have such a financial carrot out there to force a change in their behavior. If one feels sorry for Henry, then logic demands we feel equally sorry for these millions of other young people, with no such physical talent to be worth huge financial rewards for such a talent, who will never get endless second chances, have no access to support from those who have already succeeded, and----for the most part---are basically walled off or 'gated' from the more successful in life. It is really just a picture from life's other side. Henry's demise is a tragedy, but an even greater tragedy are millions more leading hopeless lives of quiet desperation. There is no sad sudden demise of their lives because they are never high enough in life's success plateau to fall. And if we really knew many of these people as a person we would no doubt say of many, 'they are basically good people, who given the right environment, could turn their lives around. For a zillion reasons, they are never going to get a good environment, they are not strong or smart enough to pull themselves up by their own bootstraps like a Terrell Owens, and even if we all really wanted to share our resources and help them, their numbers are staggeringly high, the task too difficult, and the natural resources are no longer there on the globe for them to live the lifestyle many of us do. If we feel sad for Chris Henry, logic dictates we weep and bawl loudly for this other vast mass of humanity across the globe who pay a ghastly price for human overpopulation on a stressed planet. Henry at least had the athletic talent to be allowed to smell the roses for a brief time. The effort it took on the part of so many to salvage Henry from this other vast mss of humanity who live lives of quiet desperation---this effort was long standing, widespread, and the carrot available huge.
I don't have any answers, I don't really understand most of the questions, maybe there are no answers. God's created evolutionary process is run by laws which use survival of the fittest for evolutionary progress. It works, millions of years attest to that, but this forward progress over millions of years leaves in it's wake tragic personal consequences for individual specie members. There is a cost to most everything worth achieving. The cost for God's evolutionary progress is especially steep for the weak and less fortunate who end up with the wrong cards from the wheel of chance which plays such an important role in the process. The results are overwhelmingly impressive, but the process can be brutal. I personally feel lucky, but not on the basis of any personal intervention by God for this luck. I don't feel singled out, I don't feel I earned all this good fortune, I don't feel God likes me better than others, I just am lucky. This is not to say individuals cannot, via their own good choice, parlay luck into a better life. But it starts with luck.
